Further Updates from March 2018
Another sunny day in England by the sea. Coming off Benzos and recovering is the best thing you’ll ever do because life afterwards just makes you grateful for every moment. Knowing the absolute hell of withdrawal from a cold turkey after long term use I can’t say enough about how good it feels to be recovered. No more anxiety, no more depression, no more panic, no more insomnia and no more pain. We have to go through it in order to learn how we can live again in happiness and love. Hang in there as it will come to you as well.
We learn to treat ourselves and others with respect but we also learn compassion which must be one of the greatest human attributes. The world would be a better place if there were more compassionate and
understanding people who love each other and respect each other’s opinions. We come from a place of thought, our lives are the result of how we think and see the world and for this reason alone nobody can be the same as we are. Today and everyday be
compassionate to yourself and to others and let your thoughts help your healing from Benzo damage.
Love and support ❤️
A prayer for Compassion....
When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.
When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.
When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.
When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.
When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.
When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.
When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.
When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.
Dare to be the best you can –
At all times, Dare to be!”
― Steve Maraboli,
A book I’m reading at present, ‘Mind Over Medicine’ has made me think more about the power of the mind in Benzo Withdrawal. I feel we do overlook this far too often yet the placebo effect is well known and is merely a strong belief in what we’re doing to help ourselves. Therefore, whether this belief lies in more drugs or supplements or in keeping free of everything and concentrating on a certain diet, exercise or therapy, it will help to make recovery easier as long as you’ve come to your own informed decisions.
Loved ones, friends or even strangers on a support group will try to tell you what is best for you but they are not you and only you can be in your inner self and know what is right for you. Everybody has this intuition and it will serve you and feed the placebo effect far better than anything else. In other words believe in yourself and what you’re doing to achieve health and recover from Benzos.
Your brain and body are doing their very best to heal you so try not to scream at them or resist this healing process. Everything that comes up in your recovery, physical pain or mental fears, will pass in time and don’t need controlling but they need to come up for you to let them go. Believe in yourself, believe in what you’re doing to get through withdrawal and you will be rewarded with full healing in the time it takes for you.
My prescription is to therefore take one placebo pill a day before breakfast! ❤️
Today trust in your own healing power. Like that bird on the branch you too have wings that will lift you safely from Benzos. It may take time but it will happen if you allow it to. The human body and brain are remarkable and have everything within them to make you well again if only you can trust the process and allow them to do so.
Psychiatric drugs don't cure anything, at best they suppress symptoms for awhile or numb unwanted emotions just like a plaster over a wound. They may be helpful in the short term but over time they can have disastrous effects as that plaster works loose leading to a downward spiral in health and worsening problems.
‘All psychiatric drugs change the way the brain and nervous system function and over time, they cause more permanent structural changes as our brain and nervous system tries to adapt to the new unnatural balance of chemicals. Over time, our whole body starts to 'rewire' in response to the new, chemically altered environment. This brings secondary changes in the functioning of all our body systems. Some of these changes can be significant and cause new unpleasant symptoms and difficulties’.
I’m not sure who wrote the above but it’s something I’ve saved as it simplifies the process that those in withdrawal of any psychiatric drugs have to face. These drugs cause changes which, when stopped, cause even more unpleasant symptoms. Never stop them suddenly and always taper slowly and safely to allow the changes to reverse to normal with time.
Please trust the process and allow your body to heal. Trust in your own healing as it is happening all the time you’re withdrawing and setting yourself free of Benzos. Try not to slow or even reverse the process by controlling it and not allowing the brain to rewire over time. You can be free like that bird and fly again. ❤️
Some brief advice today.....
*Be patient. Going onto prescription meds is easy. Getting off them is not.
*Get help. This is a medical issue. Make sure you’ve got a healthcare professional at your side (if possible and if you have a supportive and knowledgeable doctor).
*Set reasonable goals. Allow your tapering process to be as lengthy as necessary to feel comfortable and in control then...
*Plan you taper with informed help and as you can tolerate as this is different for everyone.
*Add no further drugs and keep clear of supplements if possible.
*Never forget you are healing as soon as you make the decision to do so and start your taper.
*Keep positive and try not to dwell on each symptom as it pops up. Get reassurance as you need then let it pass.
*Stay strong. And remember you’re not alone.
There are many here in the same place as you are so always remember you are not all on your own in this. Thousands have recovered and you will as well. 💜
One of the most common subjects to come up on the group is complaints of insomnia and too little sleep when in withdrawal. It’s useful to know what’s happening in the brain as you sleep and why this is affected when you’re withdrawing from Benzos and also why no other drugs or supplements should be added at this time. It’s controversial but everyone wants to heal as quickly as possible so allowing the brain to do this is the main objective....
Sleep can be divided into two broad stages, non-rapid eye movement (NREM), and rapid eye movement (REM) sleep. The vast majority of our sleep (around 75 to 80 per cent) is NREM, characterised by electrical patterns in the brain known as ‘sleep spindles’ and high, slow delta waves. This is the time we sleep the deepest.
There are five stages to sleep....
Doctor Diana L. Walcutt has outlined the five stages of sleep.......
The stages are determined by the brain waves that are active during each phase. This refers to the waves you’d see in an EEG or electro encephala graph. The five stages are:
Stage One. The brain goes through the Alpha and Theta waves. These waves can happen even during the day, during a period we often refer to as ‘day-dreaming’. You can even practice the alpha waves during meditation. Slowly, you’ll start drifting towards theta, which is just a short period before we fall asleep.
Stage Two. The second stage sees our brains produce rapid, short waves called sleep spindles. The body temperature drops and heart rate slows down.
Stage Three. During stage three, your brain is creating deep and slow waves called delta waves. This is the transitional period of moving from light sleep to deep sleep.
Stage Four. In the fourth sleep, you enter delta sleep. This is deep sleep and referred to as the slow wave sleep.
Stage Five: REM. Finally, you have our friend REM sleep. Your voluntary muscles are actually paralyzed during this time, yet your brain is busy producing dreams.
Sadly when Benzos have been used for sleep this pattern is interfered with and needs to be reestablished for normal sleep to return. The only way this can happen is not to interfere further and let sleep come back naturally as it will eventually.
I do understand how hard this as lying awake night after night we do begin to despair and of course symptoms are worsened during the day. I think resting is important as well and sometimes just listening to music helps or even to white noise. I believe there are white noise machines which can be used beside your bed. Focussing away from not being able to sleep is the main objective so the brain can switch off.
In the worst case scenarios people try antihistamines, melatonin, theanine or other supplements supposed to encourage sleep. I feel there’s nothing wrong in taking these on an occasional basis if you can tolerate them but be aware that these also can become addictive as the brain adapts to their use and sleep patterns are altered. As recovery continues a normal sleep pattern will return.
Again everybody is totally different in this and in what they find helps them. It’s an important area in not to be prescriptive because what helps one may set back another as we well know. The natural sleep that eventually returns is refreshing and restorative and quite unlike any drug induced sleep and makes us aware of what we’ve been missing! ❤️