Further Updates from March 2018
My message to everyone to day is to ‘ditch the what ifs’. Don’t dwell on ‘What if something else is going to happen’, as all this will do is increase anxiety and then increase any symptoms you’re suffering. Live in the now and not what may happen in the future because it hasn’t happened and may never happen anyway. You’re own thinking is therefore increasing your hell which is the last thing you need when getting through those bad days.
Some common what ifs.....‘What if my doctor puts me on x, y, z, drug?’ Don’t forget it’s your choice what you put into your body so this ‘what if’ doesn’t ever need to happen. Doctors can only advise, you can do the research on anything that is advised and it’s your choice what you want to try.
‘What if my doctor stops prescribing my benzo?’ Again it hasn’t happened yet so your best answer to this is to start your taper and remove the benzo while they are still being prescribed.
‘What if I never get better?’ How often have I heard this one in the several years I’ve been supporting others. It must be the most common ‘what if’ of all. Try to imagine yourself well as all anecdotal evidence shows that everyone recovers from benzo withdrawal but this takes different rates of time from a few weeks to a few years. Don’t let this scare you, read the many success stories and keep away from symptom focus. Learn ways to cope, learn techniques to calm anxiety without a pill and find your own best coping skills knowing that it will all lift eventually.
‘What if other drugs are causing my symptoms?’ We can never know exactly what is happening in our brains so the only answer is to safely taper one drug at a time. Don’t worry about any other drugs just focus on the one you are tapering at that moment in time. It’s no use worrying when their are no answers so keep on track and let future tapers wait for the moment.
‘What if I can no longer work?’ I agree this is difficult for those that need to go to work. I would always suggest if in a bad withdrawal to try and get time off to allow your nobody to rest. However, sometimes work can actually help and divert attention away from the symptoms so it can be a good thing as well. If you’re working as you taper keep as stable as possible and don’t imagine you won’t be able to do this but possibly put some sort of support in place just in case on some days it becomes too difficult.
‘What if I have this, that or the other symptom because so and so had it.’ This is where the groups do a disservice to members in emphasising the symptoms and horrors of withdrawal rather than the successes and marvellous release of recovery. Everybody is different, you won’t get every symptom, you may get none and be perfectly fine all through your taper. The placebo effect is powerful on the fragile, benzo compromised mind so feed it with positives and avoid the horrors.
‘What if this is such and such an illness because symptoms are the same?’ Benzo Withdrawal mimics many other illnesses and Dr Google does a disservice to benzo recoverers. Get yourself tested for reassurance and then just let that set of symptoms fade away if just withdrawal as they’re likely to be. Reassurance helps calm the nervous system.
I can go on with the ‘What ifs’ but if you become more aware of them and the negative thinking that accompanies them then you can deal with them and switch it all to a more positive scenario.
I know we all fear what may happen in benzo withdrawal and I understand as my own fear increased ten fold and the ‘what ifs’ ran rampant in my mind. Benzos increase anxiety in the long term and the ‘what if syndrome’ is one manifestation of this anxiety. Stay strong, know your mind can play tricks on you and try and keep that thinking on as positive a track as possible because negative talk just increases anxiety. Please keep this group hopeful, ditch the ‘what ifs’ and talk about those little successes or the disappearance of symptoms as well as seeking help for anything. ❤️
It’s all to easy to say to ourselves, ‘I’m never going to get better’ or ‘I can’t go on any more’ but saying this to yourself and even out loud on the support groups is not going to help those neurotransmitters reform. Here’s perhaps a little research into this written by somebody else....
Watch what you say
Dr Emoto was a Japanese professor who did some incredible photo experiments with water where he put a drop of water into a petri dish and then froze it for about 3 hours. The water was then photographed at a very high resolution and the pictures show the shapes in which they froze.
Ok, what's the big deal you are asking?
Well, before freezing the water he spoke different words to each drop of water and depending on the words the water changed into different shapes! The ones that he spoke words to like love or thank you made the most beautiful shapes and the ones he spoke words to like hate or evil were very fuzzy, stunted or plain.
This experiment has been reproduced to show consistency so make of it what you will, but think about this........ We are mostly made of water, could how you talk to yourself, be affecting your body and how it feels?
So all you Beating Benzos Buddies tell yourself you are healing, you are beautiful and all will be well.
From Beating Benzos Facebook Group.....
“You ask, 'Why should your doctor, neurologist, psychologist etc understand the benzodiazepine withdrawal syndrome?' my reply is,
'Why not' - if you listen to the world renown specialists, Professors Ashton & Lader in their interview 'The Benzodiazepine Medical Disaster' (in our Announcements here) and hear that the long term problems with these psychotropic drugs have been known, discussed and written medically about for over 50 years, how can someone who has trained for years to reach the exalted position of a medical professional, even a Neurologist specialising in peoples' brains, not understand what effects these evil drugs can have, especially as thousands of their colleagues have been dishing them out like Smarties year in year out. No, there is no excuse on this planet for someone in their responsible position to be ignorant concerning the effects of these drugs, as the info is and has been out there for years.”
I found this in my saved articles and interesting posts and it’s so true as I read of more and more pills being foisted on members suffering from Benzo withdrawal when all they need is to be given compassionate understanding and freedom from chemicals so they can heal from benzo poisoning and get their lives back.
My own answer lies in another post I wrote here.......
“I know not everyone will agree here and I am also aware for some of you certain medication and supplements may be absolutely necessary. The main point is that we have been harmed by a chemical that has given us difficult and sometimes extreme side effects that are slow to recover from. We live in a society that has been conditioned to believe that a drug or supplement can do us good even cure us therefore, when suffering, we naturally search for answers to alleviate that suffering. In Benzo withdrawal we come to learn that these beliefs have to be challenged if we are to recover as quickly as we can. The body isn’t the body that used to be able to eat, drink and take a pill as needed because it’s changing. In this state of change it is highly sensitive and doesn’t want to be further abused with chemicals, it wants to be left alone to do what it has to do to fully recover. Once recovered it will accept whatever we choose to throw at it, although I believe this whole process is an awakening that helps us value ourselves more and wake up to the innate health that lies within us all.
I know this is controversial and I completely understand the need to search for that elusive ‘cure’, that miracle pill, as I’ve spent years now doing that for myself. Eventually I think we give in to it all and it’s that giving in that supports our final recovery. Always remember it was a chemical poisoning that put you in this predicament, that ‘abused’ your body, so maybe better not to possibly do further harm with more chemicals added to the fire. It’s a hard lesson to learn when doctors, even specialists try to ‘put us on something else’ so I write this is answer to all the cries searching for something to help the horrors as my heart goes out to you. You will be well.”
HAPPY BIRTHDAY Heather Ashton. Today this great lady reaches 90 years of age. She is the only person to have undertaken in depth research into the problems of benzodiazepine drugs that have been known since the 1960s. This day, July 11th, is now used to spread awareness of the dangers of these drugs.
Nobody has continued her research and we are just left with her manual plus anecdotal evidence from benzo sufferers accumulated over the last 50 years to help us through. Even today, all these years later, benzos are still being prescribed for longer that the recommended two weeks. Sadly, many in our trusted medical profession prefer not to recognise the dangers of these drugs and continue to harm patients by misguided prescribing. It’s no wonder there are approximately 100 groups on Facebook devoted to various aspects of suffering from these drugs. I have compiled a list of 70 of them and will continue to add to them as new groups are formed. I’m not sure they all serve a constructive and informative purpose but they do demonstrate the extent of the suffering out there. Today lets unite and get the dangers of benzos up front and into the public arena.
I’ve suffered the effects of these drugs now for 48 years, don’t let anybody else have to go through so many years of suffering.
Happy Campaigning Benzo Cavaliers.
This is really meant as a lighthearted look at our symptoms but it does give benzo sufferers a more serious message.
I’ve written this before but perhaps relevant to the pic.......
It’s so easy to misinterpret the symptoms we experience. This misinterpretation adds further anxiety and fear so we seek answers from a doctor.
Many weird and often unique problems arise for us as we get free from benzos. These problems will sometimes mimic other illnesses and conditions that the medical profession would apply a label to and treat because that’s what they do. Usually, however, we are not really suffering these treatable conditions but a false copy of them. The false copy doesn’t respond to being treated as if it’s a true fact. The person now believes they have such and such condition so anxiety and stress about these symptoms are then compounded even though he or she is unlikely to have the diagnosis for real, merely a false copy of it.
brain, trying to sort itself out in withdrawal, throws numerous false positives out which actually can’t and shouldn’t be latched on to and treated with further drugs. All that’s needed is reassurance that others have recovered from this
if it was a product of Benzo withdrawal and recovery. In actual fact trying to treat individual symptoms can further disrupt the nervous system and make them worse. What the brain and body need most of all is freedom from further stress. Any additional fear
can and will whip up the symptoms.
(Having said that please, always seek medical reassurance for any worrying symptoms that you experience. Suffering in silence and believing everything is caused by the drugs and their removal is not wise. Reassurance will go a long way towards preventing that catastrophising and adding fear).
The whole process is a conundrum and turns upside down any previous beliefs we had in how the body heals and what symptoms mean.